You know you love your family, your kids and wife or husband. You know you feel this unconditional, limitless love for humanity. Your love extends to the elements, animals, and plants. But what you don’t know is why you love them. Why is that? Because we need time to feel real love and this is exactly what you have been missing. This is surely a big challenge for many in our modern world: How to manage time. We run from the school to the office, even having a drink with friends is a question of time, looking at the clock and running off for another task.
2 Consequences :
You manage to do everything you have planned, you are a warrior -> You are tired.
You did not manage to accomplish everything -> You are frustrated.
BUT, you don’t feel love at all. Because you did not take the time to feel it.
If you are in this situation, the first thing to understand is that no one will take the precious time you need for your self-care, the time is yours and the way you decide to use it belongs to you and only you. If you keep this in mind – and finally accept it – it’s the beginning of the big change.
The second is that taking your own time will make you a better person and have better quality relationships. You already know this; “Thank you; Shut the door while I relax.” Wait! Here is the best point: Taking the time to love doesn’t need a clock because love doesn’t take time. I’m not telling you to take the time to do something you love, start playing piano or go to watch a movie with your beloved at least one a month. No. You can read that everywhere and get a list full of beautiful advice you may or may not follow anyway. I’m talking about this precious little time you take to love yourself and others. Taking this time to love belongs to the practice of mindfulness. You can experience love in the present moment under any circumstances.
Imagine tonight, when you come back home, that you take a moment to watch your family moving, playing, talking, living. Consider the way they walk, the way they sit and talk. Consider how they use the space around them and how they feel in that space. Notice how they communicate in their relationship with you. Observe how you interact in their lives and how you act in these relationships. You can practice working on this with your team at the office or with some good friends.
Taking the time to feel love is like training yourself to see yourself not as solid but as energy. You train your brain and sensitive system to experience the fluidity surrounding you. By capturing the electric love channels as a fluid, not something static but dynamic, you will feel more responsible for the intensity of the love you experience. After a while, you will develop the electric love channels between you and others.
Taking the time for love will improve the quality of the connections with the people in your life. You will discover that even the emotions that make you feel sad, upset or agitated can bring you to happiness and a place of love.
My last recommendation: Remember to train yourself to practice mindfulness. Feel your breathing, the air coming into your nose and expanding your chest and belly. You can practice this mindfulness even if it is for just 1 minute, while you are at the office, in the car or having lunch. Feeling love begins by loving yourself.